Please read this article from the NY Times about the cultural shift from dating to hooking up among teenagers:
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/13/opinion/13blow.html?th&emc=th
What do you think? Is hooking up really preferred to dating? Why the shift? What has been your personal experience or what is your personal opinion? 20 points for a well thought-out opinion of 5 sentences posted here in the COMMENTS section or emailed to ms.kingsbury@verizon.net.
i think this article is very much true because a lot of people/associates i know have said that they hooked up with someone and that person is always a friend/crush and its never strangers.
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i agree with the article, people don't date like they used to. back in my parents and grandparents days there was actual dating. i was told stories of them going on a DATES to get to know each other. not just one date but many dates before they even considered doing anything with them. people in this day in time do stuff then ask questions later. they get to know the people after the fact or not at all. i don't know if anyone i know as "hooked up" with a stranger, but i do know that its not always thought out. i don't think this shift is a good thing.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with the article. In my generation, I've noticed that this "fad" is almost common practice among my peers. Personally, at this stage in life, I don't feel like dating is a right course of action as it often fails at this point. It doesn't surprise me when people my age hook up but don't date. I'm even guilty of it myself.
ReplyDeleteI believe that the article is true to a curtain extent. There are people who have had the experience of hooking up but later on they have decided to be in a relationship. I personaly have had some hookups but realized there is mpre then just a one time thing. There can be happiness in a relationship for a while insted of just a hour or two. I believe that more people will realize sooner or later the value of a good relationship and stop hooking up for just a couple times.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the articled in the point that most kids these days are just hooking up.Theres no dating evolved but at the same time dating has a whole new meaning then it did in our grandparents days.Dating now is just saying your are in a relationship with someone not the old school method known as courting.
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ReplyDeleteIn my opinion "hooking up" is preferred over dating because this is a
ReplyDeletenew age, a different time from what our parents know.In my personal
opinion dating is not really a smart move, when it is rushed. You have
no timer to get to know a person or if that person will be a right
fit for you. So in a strange way the new system of "hooking up" is
better. Look a at it like this, You automatic ask someone out and you
start dating the next step would eventually be sex. when you "hook up"
you are getting to know the person then you decide whether or not to
date them. It assures that no wrong decisions are made. I do understand
that some females are looking for more ant thus the "hooking up" thing
is tiring because males are not looking to settle or to date, but in
my personal experience dating is like rushing a potentially good
project, in the end it could all turn out to be a wreck.
I really agree with this article. Now days people look for the hooking up. To get to know others better. I believe that dating is not called for unless you hook up first. But back in the day, my mother told me that there was less hooking up and more dating. Life is wierd, because people do things without thinking.
ReplyDeleteNow the only thing about the article I do not agree with is the complexities of dating and hooking up. The reason is because i am almost 90 percent sure that the men reporting this stuff is not really deeply experience in hooking up, because nine times out of ten most people that like there friends are afraid to mess up that friendship and do not go a step further or so from what I have experience throughout my life. Things can be different in different places, but personally i prefer dates. I just see rather see how a person acts in public. However, I also believe sex shows a person's real side, the side that they would never really show unless your naked.
ReplyDeletei think the whole article is nasty. i really didnt care for the article. in my opinion dating is better so you can get to know the person before you hook up with the person.
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